cuda: infrastructure for whole-step CUDA graph capture

- Thread-local launch stream (xserv_cuda::stream): every kernel
  wrapper, cublasSetStream, and NCCL collective now launches on
  current_stream_raw() — the legacy null stream by default (behavior
  unchanged), or the capture stream installed via push_stream during
  graph capture. Capture is impossible on the legacy stream.
- Allocator retain mode: blocks freed inside a retain window are
  quarantined (RetainedBlocks) instead of pooled, so an instantiated
  graph keeps exclusive ownership of every intermediate buffer it
  references across replays.
- Capture mode GLOBAL -> THREAD_LOCAL: concurrent TP rank threads
  must not poison each other's captures with their own cudaMallocs.
- embedding_device_ids / rope_inplace_device_pos: variants reading
  token ids / positions from persistent device buffers, replacing the
  per-call host upload that a captured region cannot contain.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Fable 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

crates/xserv-kernels/src/softmax.rs

@@ -22,11 +22,11 @@ pub fn softmax(x: &Tensor) -> Tensor {
         match x.dtype() {
             DType::F32 => launch_softmax_f32(
                 x.data_ptr() as _, out.data_ptr() as *mut c_void,
-                rows as i32, cols as i32, std::ptr::null_mut(),
+                rows as i32, cols as i32, xserv_cuda::current_stream_raw(),
             ),
             DType::BF16 => launch_softmax_bf16(
                 x.data_ptr() as _, out.data_ptr() as *mut c_void,
-                rows as i32, cols as i32, std::ptr::null_mut(),
+                rows as i32, cols as i32, xserv_cuda::current_stream_raw(),
             ),
             _ => panic!("unsupported dtype for softmax"),
         }