model: add per-head QK-norm (Qwen3-compat) for xserv export

xserv's Qwen3 forward unconditionally applies per-head RMSNorm to Q and K
(q_norm/k_norm, shape [head_dim]) before RoPE — even gamma=1 is a real RMS
divide, not identity. xtrain never had this, so an exact xserv<->xtrain loop
was structurally impossible. Add it (reusing the 2D rms_norm op on the
[seq*nh, hd] head rows, inserted between reshape and rope to mirror
qwen3.rs's order) so the trained model is genuinely Qwen3-compatible.

params() inserts q_norm,k_norm after wv; num_params() counts them; the
PyTorch parity refs (parity.py / adamw_parity.py) + their name lists add the
same step so the dumps stay self-consistent.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 <noreply@anthropic.com>

crates/xtrain-model/tests/parity_dump.rs

@@ -145,6 +145,8 @@ fn param_names(cfg: &Config) -> Vec<String> {
             "wq",
             "wk",
             "wv",
+            "q_norm",
+            "k_norm",
             "wo",
             "ffn_norm",
             "w_gate",