gqa: real grouped-query attention (repeat_kv op + both SDPA paths + wiring + tests)

- repeat_kv CUDA kernel: fwd head-block gather, bwd DETERMINISTIC group-sum (each
  kv head sums its group of query-head grads; no atomics) + Tensor/ops node.
- Config gains num_kv_heads (default = n_heads → MHA); wk/wv project to kv_dim;
  attention() repeat_kv-broadcasts K/V to nh heads before the UNCHANGED composed
  & flash SDPA → GQA on both paths. group=1 is identity → MHA bit-identical.
- --kv-heads flag on train/train_ddp/export_safetensors/greedy_sample; export
  writes real num_key_value_heads (xserv repeat_kv grouping aligned).
- Tests: repeat_kv grad-check (group>1 grad-sum + group=1 identity); model gqa.rs
  (GQA flash==composed fp32/bf16, group=1 bit-identical to MHA, kv-proj shape);
  parity_dump+parity.py GQA path (repeat_interleave) via XTRAIN_PARITY_KV_HEADS.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.8 <noreply@anthropic.com>

crates/xtrain-cuda/build.rs

@@ -37,6 +37,7 @@ fn main() {
         .file("../../csrc/ops/optim.cu")
         .file("../../csrc/ops/attention.cu")
         .file("../../csrc/ops/flash_attention.cu")
+        .file("../../csrc/ops/repeat_kv.cu")
         .file("../../csrc/ops/cast.cu")
         .file("../../csrc/ops/dropout.cu")
         .compile("xtrain_cuda_kernels");